Closing of IAC

We at Adoption Matters were stunned and saddened to hear about the closing of the Independent Adoption Center (IAC) on January 31.

These last two weeks the adoption community of professionals has been scrambling to get accurate information to figure out how to best support the hundreds of families impacted by IAC’s closing. Information has been slow in coming as state regulators try to make unprecedented decisions about next steps for these families.

It has been heart warming to witness the former IAC families band together through Facebook and phone calls to share the latest bit of information they have learned and to see adoption agencies and attorneys make efforts to do what they can to ease the grief for the impacted families and birth parents.

I have no knowledge as to what caused IAC to reach the point that they decided that they had no other recourse, but to file for bankruptcy. I have no doubt that their situation was complicated and that their decision was not easy, but it begs the question of what needs to be done to prevent a situation like this from happening again.

Our hearts go out to all of those impacted by this situation. A word of caution to wait to get accurate information from reliable sources before spending any more money. There seems to be confusion, understandably, about many things like the validity of certain adoption documents, namely home studies. I myself have gotten conflicting information from multiple sources over the past week. Unless you are in the middle of a placement in which time is of the essence, it might be prudent to take a deep breath and a few weeks to decide what do to and where to go next.


















Teen Talk

Teen Talk

Oftentimes when we discuss adoption, we focus on the home study process, the waiting period, placement and bonding, and contact with birth parents. Much of this discussion revolves around first-time parents, infants and/or very young children. The truth is, however, that these young adoptees grow into adolescent adoptees. You may even adopt your child when he or she is already on the threshold of adolescence and no one has ever raised the unique concerns associated with talking to teenagers about their adoption.

Unlike younger children who are typically enthralled with stories recounting their birth and adoption, adolescents may suddenly become hesitant in approaching this subject with their peers or parents. Their developmental level allows them to begin looking at this event with greater detail, analyzing the story they’ve always known in a new way. As if the teenage years weren’t already challenging, a teen’s adoption story and any related unanswered questions may create an added layer of distress, or at the least an added layer of curiosity.

So, how should you respond as parents, and how can you prepare yourselves to address their questions without coming across as threatened or overbearing? The two articles below do a great job of defining typical concerns raised by adolescent adoptees, as well as providing practical advice to parents who want to engage their children in healthy conversations.